Thursday, April 14, 2011

the talk

Well, not THAT talk but more adoption talk with Bug. For awhile now we've used children's books as an introduction to the subject but Bug hasn't seemed interested in relating the words or scenes on the pages to the events in his life even with our relating the words and scenes to his life. He seems too young to comprehend it but even before Bug was in our lives, the agency stressed the importance of talking with children early about adoption...whether they really understood it or not so that there wasn't a surprise BIG TALK later on.

Yesterday Bug and I were in the car and saw a woman pushing a stroller. It prompted a chat about Bug as a baby. I told him I always enjoyed putting him in his stroller and going for a walk together. We talked about what a happy little guy he was and how he loved his bottle, his toes and Winnie-the-Pooh. I told him how sometimes he would fall asleep and Vera would hear the lullaby and end up napping next to him so I had two sleeping little ones (yes, she sleeps with her eyes open).

He asked where he was born and I reminded him he was born in Virginia (or as Bug says, "REginia"). He asked if that's where we met him and I said yes (thinking that part of our previous chats may have actually sunk in and stuck with him).

Realizing that his questions were going backwards in time, I geared up for a little deeper conversation and possibly a question that went a step prior to our meeting him and was ready to follow his lead.

And then he said...and when you met me was I already in a stroller ready to go for a walk?


  1. Awww, that's so sweet.
    My husband was adopted and they talked to him about it from a really young age and he just always knew.

  2. :) awe! Too sweet!
    When my oldest was really little, he played with his Ty babies and his favorite, the armadillo always gave birth via c-section. Because that's the only birth he was aware of... To him that was natural child birth.

  3. I love that you are talking with him about it, but love even more that it's so simple in his mind. He was always sitting in a stroller waiting for you to come take him for a walk :) That's a sweet idea, isn't it???

  4. i love this. and i love what Mrs Montoya said.

    and vera is adorable.

  5. My cousin is adopted and I remember when we were kids my aunt's stories just started with "when we got you..." Totally normal.

    She and I were also practically identical twins.

  6. Awww. That is so sweet, and just how it should be. It should be completely natural conversation. Beautiful. Well done! :)

  7. That's sweet. I think you're doing a wonderful job with this "talk" already.

  8. What a wonderful metaphor.

    Maybe he'll be a writer too.